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Jun 1, 2018

Ordinary Everyday Moments

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We sat on the couch trying to figure out what we wanted to do for dinner... Cook something, go out somewhere, order take out...?? How about pizza? Chris asked. Clearly he knows I would never turn down a good piece of pizza in all of it's cheesy goodness. What are your parents up to? Let's ask them if they want to come with! Chris hung up with his parents and said they were in! Let's call Nana and Pop also! I dialed their number and Nana said they were in as well. No plans went to fun last minute dinner plans with the fam! 
 
We picked up Chris' parents and then Nan and Pop... We all squished into one car, with my mother-in-law sitting on my lap. Chris said the obvious, We could always take two cars! Where is the fun in that?! Doesn't he know that squeezing into one car and going together is the best part?! We sat in one large booth enjoying all types of pizza and cheered to do doing this more often. 
 
Fast forward to the next day, I was watching Oprah interview author and public speaker Brene Brown. One thing Brene said stuck out... "One of the things that happens in a culture of scarcity is we are all chasing the extraordinary... When I ask people who had went through a trauma what's the hardest loss, they never talked about the extraordinary things... They said they missed the ordinary moments. And those are the moments in front of all of us everyday, that we can stop and say God I'm grateful for this." When she said that I felt it in my heart.  
 
That pizza night was almost five years ago and so much has changed... two of the biggest changes being Harper & Greyson were born since then and my sweet Pop is in the arms of our Heavenly Father. Squishing our family into one car like sardines and going for pizza was an ordinary moment. Nothing fancy or extraordinary. But it was an ordinary moment that I will always cherish, wish I could relive just one more time and continue to hold in my heart. One of the biggest driving factors of why Chris and I decided to move back to CT from NYC almost 9 years ago was to be closer to our families. Because we wanted to have more ordinary moments like this with them. Let me tell you it was one of the best decisions we ever made. I am grateful for new ordinary moments unfolding each day and will give up big extraordinary for a million like these any day.
Ordinary Everyday Moments
That Kind of Cheerleader
Apr 6, 2018

That Kind of Cheerleader

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There needs to be more cheerleaders in the world. People that come along side you and cheer you on... motivate you to keep going. To go further. To tell you you are doing a great job and remind you that you are capable of doing more then you think you are. Yes, the world needs more people like that. Genuine cheerleaders. Because truth be told, there are enough of the other kind. We don't need more people to point at you when you fall, or see you struggling and look the other way. Or see helping those struggling purely as an opportunity to make a profit. We don't need people that will pick you up and when you are up and standing, look around to see if any one saw their good deed while patting themselves on the back. This world is already fully stocked up on that kind. The world needs true, genuine cheerleaders. Individuals that are not self-serving and help others even though there is nothing it for them. People that will come right next to you wherever you are and encourage you because they truly care about you and your journey. People that will tell you to reach further, fight harder, run faster, and go further then you had imagined.  
 
But in order for there to be more cheerleaders in the world, we each need to be a cheerleader for somebody else. We need to be that person. We need to come along side someone and root them on, telling them not to give up... That they are doing a great job and can do it. That they shouldn't settle for their comfort zone, but should strive to go beyond it. Even if someone is running a good race, everyone has doubts and fears... wondering if they are good enough and feeling like they are struggling to put one foot in front of the other. Fast and slow runners both need encouragement. Everyone needs a cheerleader and to be a cheerleader. The world is desperate for more of those kind of people.  
 
So today, send that encouraging text messege. Give someone a ring this afternoon who you know could use a little Rah-Rah-Rah You Can Do It! Mail a card telling them you believe in them, set up a coffee date to remind them of how far they have come, swing by their house to inspire them to dream bigger. Encourage, love, champaign, support, inspire, pour into and motivate just because. Be the kind of cheerleader that this world could use more of.
Mar 12, 2018

Happy Birthday Greyson Cole!

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It's hard to believe that it has already been four years to the day that my ears heard the most beautiful sound I had ever heard - your first cry as you entered into this world. Tears rolled down my face as my eyes locked onto you for the very first time and I could hardly believe what I was seeing for the first time - my son. Your father and I praised God in that very moment for His goodness and unmeasurable love.  
 
Last week I heard your sweet voice softly saying, "left, right, left, right." As I peered around the corner, there you were holding on to both your sister's little hands, gently guiding her forward as she took slow shaky steps. She was staring at you and smiling ear to ear that with you, she was "walking." Greyson, you were beaming and so proud. You kept telling her she was doing such a good job and called for me to come quick and see! It's moments like these I still can't believe you're forever mine. I can't believe that I am the mother to such an amazing and genuinely kind soul, with a heart of gold. You are smart, determined, funny and the sweetest big brother. I adore and love you more then you can imagine and still can hardly believe my ears when I hear your voice or believe my eyes when I see you each and every day. You constantly amaze me.  
 
I love you Greyson! Happy 4th Birthday! 
Happy Birthday Greyson Cole!
Doing All The Things
Mar 6, 2018

Doing All The Things

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You know that person that's doing like "ALL the things." Like all of them. They are on top of their social media, with a planned out Instagram grid and a Facebook feed that's on point. They are blogging about awesome things every other day without fail, they made a special craft project with their child yesterday and make dinners that are Pinterest worthy. Oh and they just got back from teaching a class at a local college, going to the Bahamas for a conference, and hit four of their ten 2018 goals by March 1st. They are going here, they are with so and so and basically they are being a total rockstar. They are doing alllllll the things. And Me? Well, I'm not. There are days I am barely juggling what's on my plate. I am doing like half the things maaaybe, let alone all of them that I potentially could be. I think I should be doing more? 
 
Raise your hand if you have ever felt like this? Goodness knows I have! This was the gist of a few conversations I have had with people going through different seasons in the past few weeks. Some were moms, some business owners, some both. Some engaged, some married. Some younger, some older. All dreamers, all doing their best, and all feeling like they still weren't "doing" enough.  
 
It resonated with my heart because I have definitely felt like this before, and not just once or twice. Comparing yourself to whoever is your "doing all the things" people and whatever it is they are doing is a trap that will leave you feeling frustrated, discouraged and disillusioned. It will truly steal your joy, minimize what you are indeed doing, take the wind out of your sails if you let it and prevent you from celebrating what others are doing. It can leave you feeling empty, falling short, and insecure. 
 
It's in these times, I find myself needing to take a step back and a deep breath. To refocus back on what MY priorities are, what the goals are that I set for myself and what's most important to ME.... To focus on the direction I am heading in and the little important wins I am having each day. To not hold on to and idealize the seemly busyness of others and what they are doing which may indeed be part of what's important to them! I may not be doing "all the things," but I am doing my best and doing things that are important to ME. And keep in mind, what is important and a priority to each person is different, and that's okay! For me one of my highest priorities is being a present mama to my two little kids and giving them the attention and nurturing they need. To be intentional, to make memories as a family and have quality time with those dear to us. To love, serve and pour into what God is putting on my heart. 
 
I think it's only by looking at what my priorities are and deciding if I am keeping those things first, can I truly decide if I am doing the things that I need to be doing. It's then I can make the decision if there is more I can do or if a change is needed to help foster and protect these priorities. Because let's face it, doing "all the things" doesn't matter as much as you doing the things that matter most to YOU.
Feb 27, 2018

Happy Birthday Harper Rose!

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Our sweet Harper Rose is 1 year old today! Guys, I honestly can't believe it and was just telling someone the other day that it feels like it's been mayyyybe 6-7 months since our little girl came into the world and changed our lives for the better. For sure doesn't feel like 12 months! Last night on the eve of her birthday, Chris and I sat on the couch and watched our video dairy from the weeks and days leading up to her birth. We went through the photos of when she took her first breaths and when we held her in our arms for the first time. We scrolled through photos of when Greyson met his baby sister, family meeting her for the first time, and the day we brought her home from the hospital. I tried not to ugly mom cry the whole time, reminiscing about that beautiful day and in disbelief it's already been one amazing year since then. Our hearts are so so so incredibly full. <3 
 
Harper has grown right before our eyes, filling us with such an immeasurable amount of love and joy! She is sassy, spunky, and Greyson is clearly her best friend hands down. She smiles and laughs at pretty much everything he does, wants to be right next to him as much as possible and will play with his hair as long as he will let her. She just can't get enough of her big brother! Remington is her second favorite thing on the planet along with any carb she can get her hands on - bread, waffles, pancakes, muffins, pasta. She is a girl after my own heart clearly! Lol  
 
Since the day she was born we have prayed daily that as her parents God would give us the wisdom, patience and grace to point Harper's heart toward His. That we would show her God's love and His fingerprints in the beauty He created all around us. That she would come to know God personally and live a life that glorifies Him. These were some of our prayers in that very first day of her life, things we continued to pray these past 12 months and will continue to in the years ahead... 
 
Can't put into words how immensely grateful we are for the blessing and gift our daughter Harper Rose is to us. Happy Birthday my sweet baby girl - we love you oceans, and then some! xoxoxo 
 
I will forever cherish these photos below from her birthday party this weekend with our families - eating her cake with her best friend <3
Happy Birthday Harper Rose!
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